There is a quote by Josee D'Amore which says:
"Forgiveness is a gift to the one who is hurting".
Recently, I've been working through some emotional scars from the past. It will probably take a lifetime to work through them. During most of my primary and high school years, I was unfortunately a victim of school bullying. For such a long time, I dealt with the silent battle of depression and anxiety which lingered for many years after that.
When I look back on it now, I can see why they chose me as the 'easy target'. I was always the quiet and shy girl in the corner who never had the courage to retaliate and speak up for herself. There were days that I remember begging my parents to let me stay home from school because I couldn't bear to face my enemies. It really is something that you can never fully erase from your memory when you have been through that experience, no matter how many years have passed.
Over time, as I got older, I realized that I was never the problem to begin with. People who try to dominate and make you feel inferior do it as a way to make them feel better about themselves and it's their way to gain control.
To be able to forgive someone who has wronged you holds more POWER than suppressing resentment and bitterness. No one can diminish your sense of self worth unless you give it to them.
Once you allow yourself to let go and forgive, only then will you be able to heal, make peace with your past and embrace without reservation who you truly are.